By: Brittany O'Bryant
Have you ever seen on Instagram or Facebook that “Picture Perfect Couple”? I have and at one point I was envy at those couples that seemed to have a “perfect” relationship. Over the years, I learned that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. I’ve talked to couples who have been married for over thirty years and they can attest that their relationship was NEVER perfect. There are going to be highs and lows in every relationship. However, what makes a relationship stronger is respect and communication between two people who love each other. Sometimes you may even find yourself making a lot of sacrifices and compromises in the relationship to make your partner happy. I highly recommend getting to know your partner’s love language. Gary Chapman wrote a book on 5 love languages. The five love languages are:
Words of affirmation: Include verbal compliments and words of appreciation
Quality Time: Giving someone your undivided attention
Receiving Gifts: Giving gifts and or receiving gifts
Acts of Service: Doing things you know your spouse or partner would like to do
Physical Touch: Holding hands, kissing, and sexual intercourse
Chapman, G. (2015) “Understanding the Five Love Languages.” Retrieved from
By determining your partner’s love language it can contribute to a long lasting relationship. Remember, no relationship is perfect and it takes time and effort to build successful relationships.
This week's Wednesday Wellness in 120 talks about the 8 dimensions of wellness. Are you in balance?
This week's (the first of a regular series) Wednesday Wellness in 120 talks about the difference between a coach, healer, and a licensed professional.
Monday 9/23 marked 100 days until the end of the year. Whether you joined us then or now, walk with us on this journey to change your life! Each day on social media, we will post a quote or tip to help guide you as you work on your goals. Follow us for a weekly video as well.
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Oftentimes in therapy we talk about what your plans are for moving forward. I am a firm believer that one cannot successfully or efficiently progress without clear direction. One of the best ways I have found is to set goals. Anything less than a written goal, is a dream, and we are not in control of achieving our dreams, but we can absolutely achieve our goals.
My favorite format to writing goals is to use a SMART goals format. This format allows one to really break down all the parts, obstacles, and desires of the goal. It is frequently said that the SMART goals worksheet is a living document; it should grow with you.
SMART is an mnemonic acronym (just like the alphabet song or HOMES for remember the Great Lakes) for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely. Each letter allows you to think about your goal in a targeted way. The more detail we see in our goal, the more likely we are to achieve it!
Down below, you will find the the worksheet I provide clients. Yes, you are getting it for free right here, but it will also be included in the journal I plan to publish later this year. (Yes that goal of mine is written down!). I encourage you to print out a few copies and take your time writing your goals down. Only one goal per page and plan to attach other notes, pictures, and whatever else you might like to your goals worksheet over time.
If you would like to come by to talk about goal setting and accomplishing your goals, and you are not necessarily interested in counseling, please inquire about a wellness coaching package.
A goal is a dream with a plan!
My mantra and intention for 2018 is "abundance" in both my personal and professional lives. So far, this has been a wonderful year and there are many people to thank for their part in it. First, I shared the stage for a second time with some amazing women at the Missouri History Museum to talk about Radical Self-care. Then, I led a yoga class for St. Louis Black Vegan Social. It was their first time trying yoga! Third, I was invited to chat about mental health and wellness on Mix 99.5 with Howard Dallas Jamison and Lady RaeJ. It was a wonderful time and I hope listeners learned about self-care and the importance of seeking mental health support. Finally, we celebrated the grand re-opening of Trinity Wellness! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, to all who came out and sent well wishes. We even announced the addition of a new counselor to the practice which means increased office hours. Lots of abundance. When I say my daily mantras for gratitude and abundance, believe me when I say I am sending that positivity out to all my supporters, YOU included! Check out some photos from this month.
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